Monogamy is the practice of staying with one partner for the whole period of life. In simple words, it means marrying a person and dedicating your whole life to them. Maintaining a monogamous relationship requires a lot of compromises, patience and understanding.
Monogamy has social, psychological and health benefits. People in long-term, monogamous relationships are less prone to stress and depression, and some studies even suggest that unmarried people have a higher risk of getting cancer, pneumonia or heart attacks than unmarried people. Yet, despite these studies, marriage research shows that the divorce rate continues to hover around 50%.
Couples in long-term relationships somehow weather the storms of life. One trend that could decrease divorce rates is people’s perceptions of marriage therapy or marriage retreats. Many couples are seeking couples counseling or marriage workshops when their relationship is in distress or simply to keep spice it up.
In this article, we will discuss the pros of monogamy and long-term relationships.
- Better Sex Life
You may be surprised, but sexual chemistry takes time to develop. According to sex therapists Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy, the best sex occurs in couples who have been together for more than 15 years. This is due to the trust and knowledge bank that develops between long-term partners. The partner knows how to pleasure his or her lover, and this intimacy is heightened by their awareness that is committed to each other.
- Less Sexually Transmitted Disease
Sexually transmitted diseases can spread like wildfire. People who have intercourse with multiple partners are at a higher risk of sexually transmitted diseases. This is because many of their partners might not be aware or do not want to share their history of sexually transmitted diseases and infections.
Monogamy reduces the risks of becoming infected with a sexually transmitted disease such as human deficiency virus, chlamydia, human papillomavirus or gonorrhea.
- Deeper Emotional Intimacy
Emotional intimacy is like the soul of a romantic relationship, and no relationship can survive without it. Emotional intimacy brings a feeling of happiness and security in life, and it deepens over time. Non-monogamous people are unlikely to make an emotional connection with the partner.
People in monogamous relationships are emphatic towards each other, have a sense of unity, and have created shared meaning for their lives.
- Better For Children
Numerous studies show that positive and long-lasting marriages are essential for raising emotionally, physically, psychologically and socially healthy children. Children who are nurtured under the supervision of both parents have better problem-solving, cognitive and coping skills compared to children who grow up in single-parent homes.
Children raised by married parents are more likely to go to college, earn more and form stable marriages themselves.
- Reduce Criminal Behavior or Being Victimized
According to the sociologist, people in healthy and long-lasting marriages, compared to people in non-monogamous relationships, have a lower risk of homicide and violence, being exposed to alcohol and drugs, and committing a crime.
Experts say this may be due to the way men and women in long-term relationships learn to develop self-control and self-regulate. Monogamy brings expectations and standards of behaviors, and partners learn to act in a way that does not undermine the relationship.
Being in a long-term relationship is beneficial, but such relationships are not immune to betrayal, addiction and bad behavior. If you are in a relationship in distress or feel you and your partner are drifting apart, seek couples counseling or attend a marriage retreat workshop. The time and effort to restore your relationship is worthwhile.
Sunny Skousen is an experienced writer who has over 20 years of experience in ghostwriting, blogging, journalism, speech writing, and content marketing. She specializes in writing about Couples Therapy, Family Therapy, Faith-Based Counseling, Anxiety Disorders, Mood Disorders, Grief/Loss and Trauma, Supervision and Consultation, and more!